Last week was pretty interesting . . . responses to my "coming clean" post were fascinating and incredibly satisfying. I discovered that letting go of one grudge fed on itself, and I started thinking about other hard feelings or strained relationships (I'm not as dysfunctional as that might make me sound) and it became easier to think about letting go, moving forward, softening up.
That all felt good.
I also added to my "nice" list the idea of simply being considerate. Now, I like to think I'm good at that--but we all get busy or distracted or overwhelmed and think, oh well, I'll deal with that later, I'll answer that e-mail tomorrow, I'll return that phone call when I have more time. But, as busy as we all are, it's easy to let things slide much too far. So, I'm trying to be more intentional, and at least send off the note to say, "I'm thinking of you" or "I haven't forgotten about this." Things like that only take a minute and can make a real difference.
The biggest change I've noticed is how good it is to be reminding myself--on a daily basis--to lead with nice.